There are many reasons why people hire gay or bisexual male escorts. Feelings of loneliness, the need for companionship, a desire to experience intimacy or friendship with another man and even simple curiosity can be catalysts to hiring a male escort. If you find yourself in this situation, you might want to know how to express your feelings as a new client.
You may feel nervous about the prospect of meeting a male escort for the first time. Perhaps you still have some anxiety about what that means and whether or not it’s something that you really want to do. Maybe you’ve spoken with him on the phone but aren’t sure what he’ll be like in person or if he’ll be someone that you can trust and feel comfortable around.
Be honest about your curious feelings.
You might feel confused about how you feel about hiring a male escort. Try to be open about your feelings. It’s alright if you’re not entirely sure of what you want or if you feel a bit unsure of your decision. If you’re hiring an escort, it’s likely that you’re searching for intimacy and a connection with another human being. You might be hesitant to hire someone because you’re unsure of your own sexuality or because you feel ashamed of your curiosity. Be honest with yourself about what it is that you’re feeling. You don’t have to have all the answers right now.
Set the boundaries and expectations you have before you meet.
Before you meet your escort for the first time, you should decide on how much is too much. Remember that there are various ways for two men to express intimacy and friendship. You should be upfront about what you’re okay with. You should also decide what kind of relationship you want to pursue with the escort. Will this be a casual encounter or something that is more ongoing and committed? Will you be paying for ongoing, regular meetings with your escort? You might want to set some limitations on how long you’re going to pursue an arrangement with your escort – whether it’s a one-off etc.
Agree on somewhere safe to meet.
If you’re meeting your escort at his place, make sure it’s a safe environment. You should feel safe and protected during your meeting. If you’re meeting your escort in a public place, such as a bar or a coffee shop, make sure that it’s somewhere you’re comfortable with. If others don’t know about your choices, you don’t want to be spied on by anyone who may recognise you. You should also be aware of your surroundings at all times. Don’t bring up any personal information that could be used to identify you. If you don’t feel safe – make sure you don’t give out your phone number, address or other information that could be used to track you down.
When you hire a male escort, whether straight or gay it can be difficult to know how to express your feelings. There are a few things that you can do to make your first encounter with a male escort easier, more comfortable and open. Be honest about your feelings, set boundaries and expectations, and then meet at a safe place. If you follow these tips, you’ll have a much easier time getting to know each other and feeling comfortable together.