As a male escort, it is your job to create a romantic, upscale experience for your clients, whether that means meeting at a Michelin-star restaurant or trying out some of the best cocktail bars in town.
Of course, to impress the client, your charm needs to match the backdrop. It doesn’t matter how great the food is or how lively the atmosphere – to truly make a positive impression, it’s all about nailing the art of conversation. That’s what this guide is all about. Here, you’ll learn:
- How to actively listen
- The best questions to ask (and which to avoid)
- Why matching energy matters
All About Active Listening
Active listening is all about being present and alert while she is talking. Instead of waiting for her part of the conversation to end so that you can talk, you need to provide your undivided attention so that the client feels genuinely heard and understood.
- Avoid distractions: Maintain eye contact and put away all distractions, such as your phone, while she is talking.
- Listen to understand: Don’t think about your next reply. Instead, focus on listening to fully understand what she’s saying.
- Respond non-verbally: While she is talking, give body language responses to show that you are engaged. For example, a smile or a nod. From time to time, interject with small phrases to show you understand, such as “I completely agree”.
Of course, you’ll be doing some of the talking too! This listening part can help you understand what type of energy and conversation she’s seeking, and you can then adapt to that.
Avoid Interview Style Questioning
When on a date, it’s very easy to fall into the trap of asking too many questions in an interview-style manner. This is, of course, to be avoided, as you want your date to feel comfortable and relaxed, not as though they need to impress someone from corporate!
Here are some questions to avoid:
- “How long have you worked in marketing?” – sounds like you’re in an interview.
- “What year did you finish university?” – leads to a simple, dry answer.
- “What are your hobbies?” – too broad and makes the client feel like she’s the one who must do all the talking.
- Anything that has a simple yes/no answer.
Instead, ask questions like this:
- “If you could live anywhere without thinking about work/family obligations, where would you end up?”
- “When was the last time you felt truly passionate about something?”
- “What animal would you say best describes your inner personality?”
Match Her Energy
If you’ve been on more than a couple of dates before, you’ll know that everyone is completely different. Some women want fast-paced, exciting conversation, whereas others may prefer to let their eyes do the talking.
As a male escort, try to match her energy as much as you can. Sense the kind of conversation she’s seeking out and go from there. You can even mimic her body language, as this is known to increase attraction. That doesn’t mean copying everything she does, but instead involves making subtle gestures that match her own, whether that’s drinking at the same time or returning a coy smile.
So, if she’s soft spoken and introspective, match her volume and tempo and bring things a little closer, perhaps by pulling your chair up a little more or leaning in, making her feel like the only woman in the world. If she’s more vibrant and conversational, match that enthusiasm!
Master the Art of Conversation Pivots
Sometimes, when speaking to a client, you might find that the conversation steers too far towards stress-related topics such as work, family life, or religion or politics. While it’s your job to make your client feel heard, you’re also there to provide a fun, exciting, and relaxing time. Here’s how you can master the pivot:
1. Acknowledge the stress
Always acknowledge what the client is talking about. Be empathetic, saying something like “that sounds incredibly tough to deal with.”
2. Softly pivot
To do this, use a conversational bridge that connects what she’s talking about to something more positive. So, if she’s talking about work stress, you might bring up the idea of a getaway. Show her that escaping from her daily stressors is possible, and you’re there to do just that.
3. Watch her responses
Of course, every client is different. Some might actually want to stick to the more stress-related topic. So, watch her responses and create a conversation topic that genuinely appeals to her.
Master the Art of Conversation and Become a Sought-Out Escort in Your Area
Being a male escort is about more than looking your best. It’s about being a genuinely understanding, present, and charming individual who can show a client an amazing time with just a conversation. The good news is that it’s a skill you can master, and if you do, you are more likely to win over more clients as time goes on.
Are you a natural?
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