There’s no right way to escort. Each experience is different, and every client is unique. That said, once you’ve been around the block for a while, you’ll start to develop a handful of methods to ensure that every date goes smoothly.
Today we’d like to give an overview of some of the approaches that work best for our top clients. We’ll be covering how to prepare for your date, ways to manage boundaries, and how you can make sure they go home with a smile on their face.
Research Your Clients
First impressions matter, especially when it comes to dates. Giving the wrong first impression can make things awkward and uncomfortable in a way that’s hard to shake. Giving the right one, on the other hand, can set the tone for a truly incredible evening.
By far the best way to make sure you leave a good first impression is to come prepared. Make sure you’ve thoroughly read any messages your client sends you. If your date involves a new or unfamiliar activity, take the time to research it in advance so you don’t get caught off guard.
Also, don’t be afraid to ask a few questions beforehand. We’re not saying you need to start sending out surveys or bombarding them with questions, but it’s both polite and practical to make a few inquiries beforehand.
Questions like “do you drink alcohol?” or “how would you like me to dress?” can help with the specifics, but for the most part we recommend open questions that encourage your date to give you a broad impression of who they are.
Know Your Boundaries
The relationship between an escort and a client can be a very personal one, which is why boundaries matter a lot. Just as you should always be respectful of any boundaries your client wishes to put in place, you also need to know where your lines are and what you’re comfortable with.
If you’re a brand new escort, it can be helpful to be upfront and honest with your client that you’re new and keen to have them lead the date. It’s a good idea to start out by taking clients on dates or with other low-pressure activities. This allows you to practice the skills you’ve learned so far, and get used to the pressures that come with being an escort.
Set The Right Mood
One of the most important things to remember about dating with escort clients is that it’s still dating. Make sure that you’re approaching the interaction as a date and not an appointment or a business meeting.
In other words, be romantic and respectful.
You want to be very conscious of your date’s comfort level and boundaries. Always remember to check in with how they’re feeling.
When you’re on a date with your client, you want to make sure that you’re doing something that both of you enjoy. There are lots of ways to do this: it could be something as simple as going out to eat, grabbing drinks at a bar, or attending an event in your city.
Don’t Be Afraid to be Yourself
New escorts often think they have to put on a personality. They imagine that their date has an image of ‘Mr Perfect’ and that it’s their job to transform themselves into that person.
This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Unless you’re a first class actor, you’ll struggle to keep up a performance that isn’t true to life and, even if you manage it, you may be doing more harm than good.
As an escort your personality is your greatest asset. Trying to hide that personality, or appeal to someone you think clients would prefer, can often serve to smooth over your most likable traits. At the end of the day, most clients like a guy who’s a bit rough around the edges. It’s those rough edges that give you character.
Know When to Cut Your Losses
Remember that some clients won’t be a good fit for you. There’s always a temptation in this industry to try and make every client relationship work and while we certainly encourage you to put the work in, there’s no shame in accepting that this client wants you to be someone you aren’t.
This isn’t just about the quality of your service. The most lucrative clients you’ll ever get are repeat ones. While it can seem counterintuitive, your time and energy is often far better spent cultivating a long-term list of clients you can be yourself around, rather than one that forces you to play a role you just don’t fit.
Although it might be bad for your profits in the short term, over time this attitude will leave you with a list of clients willing to sing your praises from the rooftops.
Final Thoughts
As we said before, every client is unique. By the same token, every escort is unique.
Being a successful escort means playing to your strengths and finding the clients who’ll love what you bring to the table. It’s a fine balance between understanding their needs and staying true to yourself. Ultimately, the best way to strike this balance is through good communication and honesty.
It’s worth saying that this balance is a skill all by itself. Most great escorts don’t start out that way. It takes time, hard work, and practice.