When searching for clients as a male escort, you need to set up a profile – one that showcases the best of who you are and what you have to offer. All too often, though, men setting up these profiles simply fall short of the mark, whether that’s because their photos aren’t high-quality or they do not include enough relevant information in their bio. One particularly common mistake made by straight male escorts is adhering to what men want instead of what women want.
The Male Gaze vs. The Female Gaze
In recent years, you have likely heard of the terms ‘female gaze’ and ‘male gaze’. While these terms often oversimplify the concept of what women vs. men are looking for, it’s still a good way of understanding that many men and women differ in what they think the other sex wants from intimate experiences.
Oftentimes, men – particularly men looking to become escorts – have an idea in their mind about what they think women want, but here’s the harsh reality: they’re often a long way from the truth. A man may believe women want to see lots of muscle and shirtless mirror selfies, but women tend to prefer a variety of images, particularly ones that show the guy dressed up smart. The woman wants to know the man they’re hiring can spruce up well, after all. You can bet your bottom dollar that they’ll be putting serious effort in for your date, so it’s not unreasonable for them to expect the same in return.
Low effort in your pictures will suggest low effort on the date, and nobody’s going to book that.
In this guide for straight male escorts, I’m going to cover both what women want to see in a male escort profile, as well as the things that, quite frankly, make women click away in a matter of seconds.
What Women Want: Eye-catching photos
When looking at a male escort profile, the eyes are immediately drawn to the photos. It’s the first thing women will judge you on, so you need to get it right.
That isn’t to say you need to look like Brad Pitt! It’s all about the right pose, the right lighting, showing different aspects of your personality, and showing your versatility. A one-trick pony is all well and good, but you run the risk of alienating those who don’t want your particular trick.
Posing: Let’s start with the posing. You want these pictures to show that you are charming, easy to get along with, and open. Use a variety of poses in your photos. Some good poses include hands in pockets, clothes over the shoulder, hands on hips, and hands clasping. A mix of standing, sitting, leaning, and reclining is good, too.
Keep it casual yet enticing, and don’t be afraid to look up how to pose guides and videos to get the hang of it. You might feel a little out of your comfort zone at first, but after a few pics, you’ll see how even a slight pose change can make a difference to how you look in the final image. It’s the final image that’s important, so it doesn’t matter how many it takes to get there. If I’m taking a selfie to post online (rather than a quick memory), I’m going to take at least a dozen to make sure it’s right. It’s how girls have been brought up in the digital age, and you need to do the same. The attitude and work you put into it will show in the final result.
Lighting: When it comes to a good photo, lighting is everything! You can look as handsome as ever, but if the lighting is less than great, you won’t stand out. Don’t worry, you don’t need an entire lighting setup – instead, choose early morning or late afternoon to use natural light, as directional light is typically more flattering than overhead lighting. If you do have a light stand, you can use this at any time of day, creating soft, flattering lighting that complements your features. Some of the best light you’ll find is streaming in straight through your window. All you need to do is play and pose to see what the light does. That might be turning slightly to one side so more of one side of your face is in shadow, or turning full on so you’re perfectly lit all over. Light creates mood, mood creates personality, and that’s what women want to see.
Different Outfits/Backgrounds: It is best to avoid taking all your profile photos in the same area, wearing the same outfit, and using the same background. Not only does it look boring, but it also comes across as quite lazy – a big no-no. Instead, take photos in a variety of settings, perhaps including one from a restaurant, one from your bedroom, and one from a hike you took. It gives women a much better sense of who you actually are off the page.
The above are just a couple of quick tips. Check out our complete guide to male escort photography for the full run down on the kinds of pictures you need to take, as well as a load of links and resources from professionals on how to take them. You don’t need a fancy camera – just a willingness to put a bit of work in.
What Women Don’t Want: Too many shirtless mirror selfies
One of the most common mistakes male escorts make is using very similar photos over and over again. One mirror selfie showing off your abs is all well and good, but having only five images showing that very same six-pack? Dull. Trust me – I’ve browsed a lot of male escort profiles when looking for some company, and if you have more than a couple, I’m moving on. It’s also worth noting that women don’t actually always go for those stand-out muscles, and that the most attractive trait in a man is kindness. It’s better to showcase your personality through various photos than simply showing off your torso.
What Women Want: An understanding of who the man really is
Women don’t want to go on a date with a guy who has nothing to offer. They are looking for someone interesting – someone who can keep the conversation moving and the chemistry aflame for the whole duration. Often, that means going for someone who has a genuine, open personality – something you can demonstrate in your description.
How To Write A Male Escort Profile – Part I
For women especially: words matter. The photos may draw their interest, but it’s what you have to say about yourself that will ultimately reel them in, ensuring they pick you for their male escort experience! That’s why putting time and effort into a good description (and considering what women want) is so important.
An example of a strong description may look like this:
“My name is Harry, and I am a worldly, cultural individual who is open to new experiences. I am simultaneously a wine connoisseur and a TV show enthusiast, so I am sure we will find something enjoyable to dive into during our time together. My open-mindedness expands to all sorts of fantasies, and my natural love of being with women will shine through in my charisma – we are sure to have excellent chemistry. Let’s discover ourselves and explore new adventures together.”
Whereas a poor description may look like:
“Hi, I’m Harry, I’m 25 from London. I like sports, food, and taking women out. I will look after your every need and give you an experience you will never forget.”
If you compare the two, it’s clear that the first one gives you more of an insight into who the man is and what he can provide to the woman client. The first description describes who the male escort is – that he has a wide range of interests (wine and bingeable TV) and is open-minded. It delivers an image of a man who is willing to go above and beyond.
On the other hand, the second description simply says that he likes basic interests (sports and food – not exactly original!). Plus, stating “an experience you will never forget” may be a decent line to add, but it doesn’t say why.
Your profile as a whole is about “Show and Tell”. The second description is telling “unforgettable experience”, but what it’s showing is “Joe Average with nothing to say”. It’s the specifics of the first that help it stand out.
In the first description, the descriptor shows that the experience will be unforgettable, as he explains that his open-mindedness embraces fantasies, and that he’s willing to explore new adventures. That’s far more enticing to women!
As a woman who has sought male escorts in the past, I can definitely say that if I saw two profiles with these descriptions, I would always pick the former.
What Women Don’t Want: Overly simplified descriptions that could apply to any man
Good looks rarely make up for a poor description of yourself. The last thing you want to do is choose an overly simplified description that could apply to almost any other man on the website. Think about your true personality – who you really are – and weave that into your description, highlighting the parts of yourself that make you unique. Why should a woman want to go on a date specifically with you rather than another? It’s about selling yourself!
This is why AI written profiles are such a turn-off to most women. They have an idea of what women want to hear, but it’s not about YOU. It’s generic and boring, and could apply to any number of men. You need to make it your own. I’m not looking at one profile when I’m searching, I’m looking at a few, so when I see three of them all using very similar language and patterns of speech, I’m not picking any of them.
There are ways to use AI properly to write your dating or male escort profile, but just plugging in basic information isn’t it. You’ll sound like every other guy with the same idea, and there are a LOT of you out there. It looks lazy, and you know what I think about that.
What Women Want: Easily accessible information
Another thing that women want to see on a straight male escort profile is easy information. They don’t want to have to scroll through large chunks of text to get to the info they want, whether that’s your:
- Location
- Phone Number
- Name
It’s considerate to have this information easily on hand so women can contact you easily. The guys at The Male Escort Agency have designed a system that makes this second nature. Direct contact buttons are never more than a click away at the bottom of your profile, as well as other useful links.
What Women Don’t Want: To be scrawling for a way to contact the male escort
If they cannot access this information very easily, they may quickly start browsing for other straight male escorts, and you may lose a client because of it. When I’m looking for a new male escort, I want to know I can get in touch with them without friction. I’ll see their number right there on the screen and can quickly pull out my phone and start a conversation. After all, life’s too short!
What Women Want: Evidence of a true professional
Let’s be real: if a woman simply wanted a date with a guy, they could easily download a dating app and match with a man before too long. When women specifically look for straight male escorts, they want someone to go above and beyond. They want a true professional, and your profile is a way of showcasing that you offer just that. The effort you put in is what’s going to demonstrate it.
A great way to showcase your skills as a male escort is to accrue positive reviews. If you deliver an excellent service, this should happen naturally over time, but it helps to politely ask your female clients to leave reviews detailing their experiences after the date.
Of course, if you are in the early stages of your male escorting career, proving your companionship expertise is a little harder as you won’t have any reviews as of yet. What you can do is emphasize your commitment to discretion and professionalism in your personal description.
Plus, the photos you display on your profile also give women an insight into your professionalism – for example, having photos of you wearing different outfits appropriate for various circumstances (such as a suit for a black tie event) will show them that you are ready and able to meet their needs, no matter where you end up going on the date.
How I Approach Finding a Male Escort
I engaged with plenty of straight male escorts in my time, and I’ve experienced it all, from the good to the bad to the mundane.
What has made my experience more positive overall is finding a reputable website like The Male Escort Agency (where I know the escorts must first be approved). When I browse through the males here, I can quickly and easily see who:
- Meets my tastes visually
- Has a personality that’ll shine on the date
- Is willing to go above and beyond
If you want to get more female clients, you need to show that in your profile. Of course, it helps to be placed at the top of the page, too, as naturally my gaze will head there first. However, it’s not unusual for me to scroll through several men before I meet my ideal match.
Then, when I find a guy on the site who I’d like to schedule a date with, I reach out directly and use the initial talking stage to see if he’s the one for me. At this stage, we will organize things like location, time, and method of payment from me.
The Key Takeaways
After browsing profiles over the years, I’ve found that time and time again, I am drawn to the profiles where I can get a true idea of the escort’s personality. When I can see him in a variety of situations, and can easily get an idea of his personality through a description, I am far more likely to get in touch in the hope of scheduling an amazing date. If you take anything away with you today, here are the two key things to keep in mind.
Photo Variety is Key: Avoid sticking to the same pose, outfit, and background – vary it up so women can see the many different sides to you!
Avoid Simple Descriptions: Don’t skimp on your profile description. Go into more depth, telling women the key details that make you YOU and not some generic guy. It’s about showing them you are interesting, open, and able to show them an incredible time.
Are You What Women Want?
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