What comes to mind when you think of a male escort? Perhaps you imagine a James Bond style gentleman – well dressed, witty, and prepared for any occasion. Or maybe you’re picturing something a little less traditional – a quirky character who’s always got a story to tell.
Like most professions, there’s no shortage or tropes and stereotypes about what a male escort is.
Unlike most professions, they almost all contain a grain of truth.
Building Relationships
Male escorting is the business of companionship. In a sense, the job of an escort is to provide a meaningful relationship to the client. And if there’s one thing modern science tells us over and over again about relationships, it’s that they’re always a two-way street.
Working with a client is about responding to their energy. Every client is different. Every escort is different. Every relationship is a combination of the two. It’s not about changing your personality but about finding the place where your personalities can match.
Is Escorting Just About Sex?
It’s a common misconception that escort is a euphemism for sex worker. While there’s certainly overlap, the two terms are by no means synonymous.
Not all escorting involves sex. In fact, TMEA is a non-sexual platform. Our site is focused on personal companionship and emotional connections.
That said, some clients may not realise or respect this, and ask for such services anyway. If you’re a freelance male companion, it’s up to you whether or not you want to provide those services. If you do, make sure you know the law for your area.
As an escort, it’s really important to have a thick skin. Always take the time to vet your clients by text and be prepared for some unconventional interactions. The word escort has a lot of connotations – some good, some bad – and some people will always make the wrong assumption.
Successful escorts know how to prioritise, often focusing most of their energy on just a few long-term clients. In fact, according to one study, around a quarter of all male/male encounters were repeat clients. While there are no specific studies yet on male/female encounters, in our own experience, as well as that of the top escorts on the site, a substantial proportion of their meets come from repeat clients rather than a new client every week. Furthermore, while many were initially seeking a sexual encounter, it was often the non-sexual activities like shopping or sharing a meal that prompted them to return.
What To Expect From Escorting
Just because escorting can mean many things, that doesn’t mean it always does. People often lump escorting into one of two categories: grotty or glamorous. In practice, these are two extremes, and most male companionship falls somewhere in the middle. That is to say, it can be either of those things, but it’s usually neither.
As an escort, you probably won’t be accompanying supermodels to private island getaways. We don’t rule it out, but it’s unlikely. At the same time, assuming you’re careful and you follow sensible safety practices, you can avoid walking into any risky situations.
For the most part, client interactions are about spending time together. That could be over dinner or out in a bar. It could involve some physical activity, something more mental like supporting a client as they work a room, or even involve the occasional holiday. Many of our top guys have travelled the globe with clients. Usually, though, it’s not about the specifics. It’s about giving the client an experience they’ve been looking for, and that will always depend on them.
The Business Side
While the “Front of House” side is undoubtedly important, you mustn’t forget that you’re still running your own business as an independent, freelance male companion. That means fielding calls and messages, keeping track of appointments, and, of course, taking time to look after yourself. Check out our article on running the business side of being a male escort, as well as our blog post on taking care of yourself.
Prioritising the client
When all’s said and done, it’s always important to approach new clients with an open mind. Ask what kind of companionship they’re looking for up front, and you can shape the experience around them and their needs.
Clients may want to hire an escort for any number of reasons, or they may have something very specific in mind.
- They might be a business professional looking for a plus-one for an important dinner (to avoid awkward questions if everyone else is attached).
- They might be new to an area, of visiting, and want someone’s undivided attention to show them the sights
- They might be someone with social anxiety who wants someone safe and non-judgemental to get back into the swing of socialising.
Ready to join?
If you think you fit the bill and can provide this kind of service, we’d love to hear from you. With over a decade of experience in the industry, we can guide you through every step to creating a great profile to get you on your way to becoming a successful male escort.
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